When Love Feels Hard to Receive


Hi Reader,

Sometimes receiving love feels harder than giving it.

You might long for closeness…
but notice your body tighten when it arrives.

That response isn’t weakness.
It’s protection.

This week, I shared a heart-centered meditation called “Receiving Love Again.”
It’s a slow, grounded space to soften old defenses, regulate the nervous system, and gently practice receiving love — without pressure or performance.

If this feels tender for you, here are two small reflection prompts to sit with:

• When someone offers me care, what does my body do first?
• What would “safe enough” love feel like in my nervous system?

You don’t have to force openness.
You just have to create enough safety for it to begin.

You can read the full blog post and access the meditation here:

And I want to ask for your help with something gently.

If my work — whether through these emails, the meditations, or therapy sessions — has supported you in any way, would you be willing to help me by leaving a brief Google review?

As a small practice owner, your words truly make a difference. They help others who are quietly searching for safety find their way here.

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Thank you for being part of this space.
For choosing tenderness.
For allowing yourself to soften.

Warmly,

Intima

Hi, I’m Raquel Perez, a Licensed Professional Counselor based in Colorado. I’m passionate about creating safe spaces for insight and emotional connection, whether through one-on-one therapy or my online resources. My approach blends traditional therapeutic techniques with holistic practices to help individuals navigate challenges like depression, anxiety, relationship dynamics, and personal growth. In my work, I focus on the importance of safety for insight—creating an environment where clients feel seen, heard, and understood. I offer a variety of services, including Ketamine-Assisted Therapy, Couples/Relationship Therapy, Sex Therapy, and individual Counseling. My goal is always to help you feel empowered to face your struggles, reconnect with your inner wisdom, and take steps toward a life full of meaning and connection. In addition to therapy, I offer free resources like guided meditations and workshops, including my 7-day personal development workshop on overcoming the depression cycle. I also host live Q&A events in my private Facebook group, where we dive into mental health topics and strategies for self-discovery. I’m here to support you on your journey toward clarity, self-awareness, and growth.

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